Stay Short or Long-term in our Unique Shared House Community!
***NOTICE: Room opening up for long-term rental mid-May for $480/month + share of utilities. See below.***
[[**In Stories on menu, read about how a crew from CBS came to Lotus Lodge to film four of us "Golden Girls" living here that aired March 2, 2011 on the CBS Early Show. Note - we do have men and residents of various ages, from 20s to 60s. Link to the 3.5 min video: http://www.cbsnews.com/videos/real-life-golden-girls-find-group-living-works-best/]]
Stay at Lotus Lodge long or short term
Interested in staying in a healthy, friendly environment while visiting Asheville? Located in semi-rural Candler yet just 12-15min to heart of downtown Asheville, NC.
You can rent a room by the night and have full access to the kitchen, bath & dining room, as well as high-speed wireless internet, for just $60/night (two night minimum). Please call for availability: 828-581-9036.
NOTE: Both long- and short-terms rooms open up intermittently, so please contact us and ask, if interested.
Overview of Lotus Lodge
Founded in 2004, Lotus Lodge is one of the first Shared House Communities in the Asheville area, and one of very few that can holds more than 5 residents. Thus there is a feeling of autonomy and privacy much greater than if there were just 2-3 people. Seems counter-intuitive but true.
On about .7 acre of land – with organic gardens and big trees (and a trout stream close by), the 2-story building is a 4400 square foot, two-story, 1915-vintage triplex. With a total of 9 bedrooms, 3 kitchens, 3 dining rooms and 4 bathrooms, each person has their own room and share’s their immediate space with just 1 or 2 others.
Our gathering room is large enough to hold classes or events for up to about 25 people, and we have had several over the years - offered by residents, locals and a few notables. Once a month (on the 4th Sunday, 6pm) we host a Potluck-Presentation-Discussion Meetup called the Community Network Gathering. If interested in possibly attending, see link below.
Usually, however, the gathering room is used by residents to sit, have a movie night or share some game or conversation. In addition to the gathering room, we have a library, outdoor porch and patio areas, and fire pit. Toward living sustainably, we have organic gardens, rain barrels to water them with and clotheslines, which are used year 'round.
Interested in Joining Our Community? Our History
Lotus Lodge was founded as an intentional community with the intention of being a living laboratory for personal development. For the first several years, residents actively learned about, co-created, practiced and shared with each other what we thought it meant to live within a paradigm of Oneness. It was richly engaging and rewarding.
Everyone endeavored to communicate "consciously" as a powerful creator (based on the belief that what we think and speak tends to get manifested), and to "own" and transform personal “buttons” rather than play victim on a drama triangle. I mention this because this approach to life and living together is still alive and well for me, Gaya, owner of the property and primary person in the selection of new residents.
In recent years, this active focus has given way to being a group of compatible but quite autonomous individuals. Like then, everyone is encouraged to know and negotiate for what is wanted - to be authentic, and to develop skills accordingly, without much reference to any books or shared teachings.
Challenge in communicating authentically and conflict between people (actually rare), however, still are seen as “obstitunities” (coined by Liz, a former long-term member) for personal clearing, connecting, and expansion of skills and awareness. Personal growth and responsibility ("response-ability") are highly honored and interactions between people seen as good practice rather than problems to avoid.
On the surface, all of this translates to residents having lots of autonomy. Everyone has his or her own room, own food, own refrigerator space and own cupboard space. Each person chooses when and how often they want to interact with others, can initiate a group dinner, movie night or some other social activity, or head up some project – such as gardening, starting a business or building something together.
Beneath the surface, Lotus Lodge continues to be a place of great personal learning. Each person is seen as responsible for his or her own happiness and to take the opportunity here to learn how better to negotiate for what is wanted. We all can get better!
Repeated complaining however, especially that which has significant harshness, negativity, and blame is seen as reflecting the person’s low skill level at communicating with others emotionally and perhaps their unwillingness to take personal responsibility. If a person repeatedly is negative and insists on playing a victim role, and thus is harsh with others in perceived retaliation, may result in being asked to leave Lotus Lodge. In the 11 years we've been in existence, however, this has happened only twice!
By in large, there has always been a lot of camaraderie and good humor at Lotus Lodge. And there’s been great diversity over the years. The people who do well generally are high functioning in terms of their ability to communicate relationally, quite self-reliant or self contained, and have a healthy sense of self-esteem. Several times people who lived here before have returned after a year or more absence (had moved out of the area), which I would say is a testament to the fact that they liked living here.
***Room Available mid-May for long-term rental!***
This room is an upstairs corner room that is small/medium sized, about 12 x 13' with 2 tall windows, one on each of two walls. It is carpeted, has a full-sized bed, a night stand and a 4"table for a desk, if desired. Beyond that, you can decorate how you choose. Move in requires a deposit of $200 (refundable after last electric bills are paid and proper cleaning done) and the 1st month's rent of $480.
Only two people (including the new person) live in that apartment - which has it's own kitchen, dining room and bathroom. The other person is a wonderful 60-something man who does performance poetry and works at Earthfare. He's very easy going and is very busy with work, groups, dancing in the Movement Collective, taking Tai Chi lessons, visiting his son in Tennessee, performing poetry at Jubilee, etc. That means his housemate gets a lot of privacy.
The house itself is well built and there's considerable audio privacy throughout. Generally, everyone is fairly quiet too. No one has a TV set or cable, but some watch movies on their laptops or - if several are interested in having a movie night, we watch movies or TED Talks, etc. together on the big flat screen in the gathering room.
The larger group gets together for a shared meal perhaps once a week - usually on a Sunday. Instead of it being a potluck with people sharing their food with others, often each person brings their own plate of food. This works really well - as some are vegan, some vegetarian, some gluten free, etc. We call this easy way of having mealtime together BYOD for, Bring Your Own Dinner, and it's a lot of fun.
Everyone is expected to share in the cleaning of their immediate area (within their apartment) by agreement with their housemate(s). Everyone also is expected to contribute to the maintenance of the other common areas - which involves maybe 1 hour a week. The latter may be sweeping/mopping the porch or stairs, wiping down the washing machine, helping with light yard work, or rolling the Waste Pro bins out to the street. Contributing to the garden also is welcomed for those who want to harvest from it.
The long-term residents we prefer
We welcome people who are fun and easy to be around (i.e. flexible, upbeat and who communicate well), who value living healthy (organic food, meditation, perhaps yoga, living sustainably as much as possible, etc.), and who also enjoy participating in intermittent group activities such as gardening, meals, good conversation and who are willing to take the initiative when they want something. Being a tidy person (including washing all dishes and putting them up after each use) is extremely important!
We especially welcome people who value living in a community environment and who feel inspired to join us. Part of our vision is to offer the opportunity to buy into the community via co-operative ownership after living here for at least a year.
**If interested in long-term rental, please request an application!
Please send an email that includes 1) your phone number, 2) some good times to call you and, 3) the time frame you would like to move into Lotus Lodge if it works out - to: firstname.lastname@example.org. Please also put “Lotus Lodge – request for long-term rental application” in the subject bar.
Then also please call me - Gaya at 828-581-9036 to alert me to your email (as emails can get lost). Once we review this information, we will call you (usually within 2-3 days). If you don’t hear back, feel free to call again. Sometimes life gets busy around here!
Note: No pets and no illegal drugs. We do not have work in trade for living space. A great way to visit is to come to our monthly (the 4th Sunday @ 6pm) potluck meetups (link: http://www.meetup.com/Community-Network-Gathering/events/213260672/?a=ce...) or stay a few nights via a short-term rental. See directions below.
Generally, we endeavor to have about half women and half men. The age ranges from the mid 20s to early 60s. When I figure out how, I'll post some pictures - of both the residents and the space.
Generally the group tends toward being fairly well educated. All of us have at least some college and 5 of us have a master's degrees or above. All are friendly, respectful, often doing their own thing. We also like good conversation when together (often in smaller groups of 3-4) and good humor.
While some of us drink wine, beer and coffee, most drink tea most of the time. While food intake varies widely, as indicated, all tend toward organic, healthy food. People's religious backgrounds also vary, with a tendency toward a more spiritual approach that emphasizes personal responsibility and the embodiment of common values such as kindness and compassion. No one tries to push their preferences onto others in any area.
Some of the classes I (Gaya Erlandson) teach include: Conscious Communication, Conscious Co-Creation, Awakening the StoryMaker, ‘The Work’ of Byron Katie and more recently teach Sociocracy (aka Dynamic Self Governance). I also am a long time student of “Co-Creative Science” as taught by Machaelle Wright of Perelandra (Perelandra-ltd.com) and the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Goddard Neville and others.
Directions to Lotus Lodge:
Address is: 11 Old Candler Town Road, Candler, NC 28715
From Asheville, get onto I-40 West & stay in right lane
Take the next exit (#44),
turn RIGHT at the bottom of the ramp, onto 19/23 (Smoky Mtn. Pkwy). Go 3 miles.
Turn LEFT @ 2nd Shell Stn onto 151 South/Pisgah Hwy (@ a light. Is just before a Bo Jangles on the right).
Go 1/2 mile down 151.
Turn RIGHT @ first LIGHT (says Queen Rd. on left)
Go about 1 block (see small yellow sign) and turn Right, then an immediate right again, going up the asphalt road where you can angle park on the right. Please park close to any existing parked cars so more can park there.
You’ll see an old barn and two white buildings with blue trim. Ours is the large building. Go into 1st of 3 doors which has a sign saying “Welcome!”
Call if you need assistance!
Rev. Gaya (aka Gayatri) Erlandson, PhD
managing editor of this site,
Founder of Lotus Lodge